living bridge

Thursday, March 6, 2014


After having established a retirement home for senior citizens especially for N.R.I parents ,It has been my dream for long time to establish a society to care for the seniors living alone, not able to attend on their own for hospital appointments, payment of bills, or who need help when there is a bereavement at home to arrange for funeral services, some seniors needing counseling etc .I knew that such services  will not be possible without the support of like minded citizens with compassionate outlook for senior care. I need to mobilize a team to make my dream a reality. While I was browsing, one day I stumbled on the concept of TIME BANK a voluntary organization which is operational in foreign countries.
It is a concept wherein the volunteers develop, social contact, develop courage, confidence  and by interacting, caring for the needs develop a big social network thereby building  a social capital. It is such a   wonderful way of serving the society without any monitory exchange. It is also known as TIME TRADE in western society. This wonderful idea was conceived by Mr.Edgar.S. Cahn .According to him the core values of Time Banking impressed me and they are
Every member and volunteer is considered as an asset and the work done has no monetary benefit whatsoever. With such service both the giver and the receiver benefits with the young volunteer establishing a god social contact and an opportunity to develop a community net work. Such service helps them to develop a mutual respect for each other irrespective age difference.
 I knew that to carry forward my dream, I cannot do it single handedly –I need a  team of dedicated volunteers for senior care.
With this in view I approached Swami Dayananda Saraswati of Gurugulam and he wholeheartedly supported my views and agreed to be honorary patron. Similarly Mr.M.Krishnan of Sri.Krishna Sweets and Mrs.Vanitha Mohan, Managing trustee of Srithuli a voluntary organization to preserve water body and ecological nature agreed to be Patron of our society. Mrs.Vanitha Mohan appropriately named our society as “PARIVU” a Tamil word which means compassion. After forming a society with few my retired friends as executive members PARIVU was registered with the registrar in August 2013
To create awareness amongst the public a Curtain Raiser program was organized wherein our distinguished patrons Mr.M.Krishnan and Mrs.Vanitha Mohan congratulated our efforts and felicitated our society “PARIVU”.Chief guest of the day Dr.B.Krishnaraj Vanarayar  addressed the audience about the importance of mind set,to remain contended as we age chronologically. Latter Mrs.Andal Priyadharshini Director Pothigai Doordharshan spoke on “GENERATION GAP PROBLEMS AND SOLUTIONS “ and Dr.Jayanth Sri .Balakrishnan spoke on “GRACEFUL  AGING” . The program was well attended with nearly 600 Coimbatore public participating.
Dr.Krishnaraj Vanavarayar and Dr.Krishnan Addressing                                                                                                                                            

Mrs.Vanitha Mohan addressing                     Audience at Nani Auditorium 

In September Puja Sri.Dayanada Saraswati inaugurated our society ‘PARIVU” officially and blessed for the society to become a movement focusing to take care of seniors. PadmaSri.Dr.V.S.Natarajan renowned geriatrician addressed the audience of nearly 1000 about care of health and mind and stressed importance of healthy food, exercise for aging with happiness. He emphasized the need for a preventive Pneumococcal and flu vaccination for elder citizens and about 100 members registered for vaccination. They were vaccinated in two different sittings at PARIVU office.

 Puja Swami Dayananda Saraswati                  vaccine registration

Puja Swami Dayananda Saraswati                     Audience at Sarojini Auditorium

Mrs.Vanitha,Dr.Krishnan & Swamiji                Swamji addressing,Dr.Natarajan beside

About 60 members from the public registered themselves for volunteer work. A training program was organized for the volunteers at G.K.N.M Hospital.

Couple of months latter PARIVU web site ‘’ was launched.

In February 2014 a get-together of members held in a club wherein a power point presentation of “EAT HEALTHY, FEEL HEALTHY, AND STAY HEALTHY” was shown with active interaction from the floor.

 Latter the members were entertained with a fun program by our vice president Dr.Sadasivam. Secretary Dr.Sankaran proposed vote of thanks and requested the members to bring in their friends as members of our society. It was also decided to have  a meet once in 4 months with leading  doctors of Coimbatore addressing the members about health care  with respect to their specialty,cardiac ,diabetic,ophthalmic,urological, orthopedic  etc. We are in the process of publishing a news letter periodically 

Tuesday, March 4, 2014


Madras Medical College Alumini Meet of 1957 Batch at Yercad on 1,2,3 March 2014
 We belong to last Intermediate batch,joined the medical in 1957.Boys out numbered the girls by 75/26.This is the fifth time we have met at different resorts-earlier at OOTY, THEKADI, TRIVANDARAM., SRIPERAMPUDUR, Earlier meet there was a good response with nearly 55 attended with family.At every subsequent meet the numbers dwindled with the members having kicked the bucket or unable to attend due to ill health,or other family commitments and this time the number has been only with 5 girls and 15 boys. All the same the rejuvenation spirit of meeting old pals and exchanging pleasantries ,sharing their activities was enthralling.. One of my class mate Dr.Jana Raowho has spent nearly 25 years at Australia made a mark for himself as outstanding surgeon and above all he was counsel general of Australia at Melbourne for about 20 years. Our class mate Padma Shri. Dr.Bardrinath,pioneer ophthalmic surgeon of world famous Sankar Netralia at Chennai, eventhough he was not able to attend this meet,he is one of our loved friends.Every one of us has contributed to the profession in their own way. We twenty pals with their family has been fortunate to be alive and consider to be privileged to have aged but active and thank Almighty GOD for his benevolence
Enjoying a Boat ride  at Yercad lake with my grand daughters,Sakathi Gowthami,Netraa,Dr.Rajagopal
At breakfast exchanging pleasantries,traveling down nostalgic memory lane What a lovely time


Grand daughters at the swing at Hotel Savroy, Yercad .Both of them accompanied in our earlier meet,every time, they are happy to have gained valuable in puts for their journal


Friday, August 9, 2013


                          BORN  TO  DIE !!!!!!!!!! xxxxxx BORN  TO  LIVE

The water starved parched mother earth exhibiting cracks and the citizens looking up the sky hoping for some rain, for nearly two years- the rain God has been kind  in the last few days, such that the water bodies around the city are filling up –thanks to the efforts of Srithuli -the dams are filling to capacity level and the river NOYYAL  welcoming the citizens for the Adi festival. The urban city is having only  welcome  showers-if it pours then the city roads will be water logged causing traffic chaos –the weather is very pleasant and ideal for early morning walk breathing  unpolluted  fresh oxygen exhaled by the avenue of trees in the citizens’ park.
After a few rounds it is my habit to sit in the  bench for a few minutes to relax  with abdominal breathing ,when I plan my priorities for the day. It is then one day I couldn’t help but overhear few middle aged three males and one female conversing first their grievances in their jobs and latter the topic shifted to spirituality when I my curiosity sharpened my ears to listen further. I could understand from their discussion that they lost one of their friends in an accident recently and his kidney, cornea was donated by the relatives.
“ It is unfortunate that he is such a charming man , pious and God loving,always duty conscious and a devoted husband. Why should GOD punish him in such accident . This makes me angry and doubt the existence of God.”   Opined the youngest among the group
“ yes he has a good name in the company and has very bright prospects in future but it is the way it has to be – I am not certain  whether God  is there or not ,but his bad luck he was knocked down by the  speeding van “ Agnostic view
Middle aged Theist “ look just because he died in an accident You cannot deny the existence of GOD . I believe that the fault is by both –if only both  adhered to traffic rules the accident could have been avoided. Don’t you see that if he had worn helmet fatality could have been eliminated?”
Atheist middle aged male couldn’t help voicing his views” if you believe in God why is there so many Gods Muslim god,christian god,Hindu god  and there are so many Hindu god s why ?If God  has created this world there should be one and only god. Why is the politics among gods, each given a portfolio of wealth, education, health, welfare, annihilation etc like our ministers? No one has seen God .It is all pure and simple imagination by different individual.
“ Look just because no one has seen God you cannot deny the existence of God. Not necessary to see god- you believe in electricity, magnetism, earth gravity – have you seen them ,no ,still you believe that electricity,gravity exists”
“O.K.O.K What you have said about electricity, gravity  etc all physics existing in the universe. Even though we don’t see them we are benefited by them aren’t we “
“yes no denying ,you are benefited without seeing them. But where did this gravity,magnetism come from. That is physics and chemistry created in the universe  by God’.
No one can give a valid answer to satisfy everyone.  All of us are “BORN TO DIE “
Come let us go home .was his verdict.
These words ‘BORN TO DIE” his voice modulation and the positive affirmative gesture by his hand  was such, as if the sole purpose of birth is to die ,struck my Glabella between eye brows like a lightning and when returned home lying in the bed with eyes closed started contemplating, analyzing the meaning “BORN TO DIE”   I f that is so why should God create life ? is it just annihilate latter! I don’t think so. When does one believe that we are born ? Is it when the sperm mates with the ova in the fallopian tube and latter gets implanted in the uterus? If w e accept the new life is created after the fertilization of ova and gets implanted in the uterus then why is that the fetus is still born before it could breathe fresh air as it cries with joy or anguish for having landed in the planet earth!  O.K.then why the time gap between birth and death ? and why the time gap varies from one to another human? What is expected of mankind in the time interval between birth and death? Is it just to eat,gossip,work to earn living ,marry,mate and procreate the human species. Animals,birds,reptiles etc does the same eating, mating and procreation.Why God the creator,created different species in the planet earth?Animals and birds also have inborn feelings like compassion towards fellow in taking care of new born and also exhibit  anger in predation . So how do we differ from animals and birds.

I am convinced that we are endowed with some unique qualities by the benevolence of GOD  

INTELLECTUAL THINKING ,REASONING  : It provides us with correct perspective to differentiate  between good and bad and also to control our Ego,Hatred,Anger Jealousy   etc. Once when these cobwebs are dusted off then our soul and mind  are in harmony ,guiding us to live in peace and contentment.
INTROSPECTION : To introspect in silence is a golden opportunity for us to look within  which is the habitat of soul,consciousness,or superconsciousness or divinity ,call it what you like. These super natural power house guides us  to realize the purpose of birth,  and while alive admiring with awe the creation of universe equipped with oxygen,sunlight,water the essential ingredient to sustain life .
LAUGHTER: Laughter is one unique quality that distinguishes mankind from animals. To laugh at a joke require presence of mind, intelligence to interpret the meaning is the only way when we live in the present now and  to clear our ego. Laughter is the best medicine for the soul

IMAGINATION: Imagination and the undying eagerness to explore  is the seed which flourished  in creating the latest technological advances in modes of communication,travel,education life saving procedures  and our achievements in space and under sea research
So if we a were born only to die ,then how we could have achieved all the modern developments? Obviously, the creator did create the universe with many living species including mankind with some specific purpose.GOD the creator has given us  full freedom to choose the way we desire to live.
Birth and death are just entry and exit points.Death is only separation of soul when the personality dies but the soul enlivens

Yes I am totally convinced that we are “BORN TO LIVE “and not ‘BORN TO DIE “   
Next time when I happen to meet the trio at the park, I will  emphatically voice my views that we are BORN TO LIVE and not born to die .Your friend who died in  an accident is  living through his donated cornea and kidney. ORGAN DONATION  is the best social service to the mankind 

My ramblings are the outcome of my overhearing the gossip- bad habit I am aware- all the same I am thankful for kindling my thought.